perfect???

NOPE! It's interesting to me that I have had several people tell me how my family appears perfect on facebook and how brett and I have the best relationship (on facebook). I have had people tell me they are completely jealous of my relationship and that they want the exact same thing.

I really don't like when people "appear" to have great lives or try to "show off" their lives via social networks. I will admit I have done it, but not with that intention. I don't have time to show the world all of my ups and downs (and I don't want to).

The point of this post is to clarify and put out there for anyone who wants to know... my family... my relationship.. they are no where near perfect. We have TONS of problems in fact!! EEEKKK! I said it!

Brett and I, are NOT perfect! We get mad... ok, I get mad lol. We get impatient. We get tired. We get winey. We get needy. We get hungry. We do our best not to take in out on each other, but again, it happens. I should be honest though, no, we don't really ever fight. We never raise our voices. We have never said a cuss word to one another. But we just do things differently. Sometimes, I will be disappointed with the amount of time Brett gave us that day so if one of the kids happened to use his tooth brush to play in the potty.. that helps me feel better.. SHHHH! LOL! (if he fixes the issue.. I boil it later! I promise!) Or another time, one of the kids have accidently peed on his pillow.... yup, I didn't mention that one for a few days. We are more of the silent arguers I guess. haha. Anyways, it works for us. Brett is rarely emotional, but he has his moments as well. If those types of things happened under Brett's supervision... he wouldn't tell me either.. not because he was plotting some sort of revenge or holding a grudge, but only because he just really doesn't care and would forget about it (I am sure there is a name for something the opposite of OCD and Brett has it). I love my husband dearly. I refer to him as my fourth child, but if you asked him he would probably say the same. I am needy in a different way though. I need time, thoughtfulness, sleep, and food. lol.
I know that people have worse problems.. but I am just letting the world know that when I think of perfect.. our relationship does not come to mind. We BOTH have a ton to improve on.. but I wouldn't want anyone else to improve on things together with. :)


Next, I am by far no where near a perfect mother. My kitchen is hardly ever clean. My kids diapers are probably hanging to their knees before I change them. They watch WAY too much TV. They go to bed way too late. Their diets are terrible. My three year old knows how to control me better than I can control her AND she sleeps with us. My two year old still uses a bottle to go to sleep. Baya still sleeps with diapers. I have leg hair 95% of the time. I have up carrying hand sanitizer anywhere. There is something rotted, sticky, crummy, or slimy in probably every room of my home. I do 2.4 billion things wrong a day and at the end of it... if we didn't have to call the pediatrician, 911, or poison control then I consider it a successful day! YAY! The most important thing is that they know they are loved and that they love their family. I am learning to handle the rest of it day by day.

I know this post is random. The thought just hit me and I needed to get it off my chest.

love, an imperfect wife and mommy